Taming the unknown territory of “what if”

What does propel us in the horizon of “what if”-the fear?

Is it stress, tired body, unaware mind, weak physical or mental frame, unfavorable planetary position or one’s inability to correct it?

If these are potential magnets of fears then why don’t we discard them permanently to make peace our everlasting companion? As we are taught that the fear always exists in future never in present but it troubles the present moment.

Perhaps, “fear” is the companion of seekers, which need complete aware and persistent effort to curb it.

The means taken to control it are myriad-maintaining good physical and mental strength by meditation, breathing exercise and yoga etc. Each applied effort takes own course and time to work.

Let’s hope to achieve the goal as the seeking has already been started.

Faithful ally-the whiff

The whiff or the breath is the oldest ally of ours- the everlasting companion. It is the reflection of self. Still it is most ignored and forgotten aspect of the body. The whirling brain has indiscriminately exploited it and negative emotions further plundered it with reactions. But as a faithful companion it accompanies us throughout our lives and has endured all apathy of ours.

The whiff is the inner reflection of self. The ongoing emotion of mind shows in the breath. Vice versa the dormant wizard breathe too holds magic to change the thought pattern.

Every thought consumes energy. But the worst plunderers are negative emotions as they create more reactions. Reaction is an active process which saps energy and leaves one fatigued.

Thought courses the breathing patterns. Under positive emotions of love, happiness and gratitude-it remains calm and relaxed. But under negative emotions like-anger, hurt and indecision it becomes shallow, unsteady and rough.
So when thoughts can change the course of breath. Breath too holds magic to change the thought patterns.

To bring best of ours and the best of life, the deep,calmer and steady breath works best for us. As the calm breath supply enough of oxygen and nutrient to body cells and brings the best of physiological activities.

To bring it to best, attention is needed. Meditation and breathing techniques induces the calmness in whiff. The calm,deep and steady breath is the the elixir of all cure and healing techniques(but it should not be forced in certain medical conditions and can be undertaken by the help of skilled guide). It is the savior of all biological processes. We must work on it.

A view of whiff through different angles-
On physiological level- It aids physiological functioning of body. As the transporter of nutrients, oxygen and remover of toxicity/detoxifier, it is the supplier of basic amenities of the cells.

On religion level- it represents Lord Hanuman-the son of Lord of Vayu -Ajani-known as Pawanputra. The Lord Hanuman-the breath acts as a bridge to sustain body-supply fuel to mind and body. It provides life force energy as breath therefore japa of Hanuman mantra strengthens physical body. The worship of Lord Hanuman is under taken to increase vigor and earning capacity.

The Ram represents Prusha –the spirit-and the consort Ma Sita represents- the physical body. Lord Rama an incarnation of Lord Vishnu is the sustainer of life.
It suggests us that the breath (Lord Hanuman) has power to tune the mind(Ram) and body(Ma Sita) and brings best of vitality.

On Astrological level-the breath- Lord Hanuman represents the planet Mars- the planet of physical strength. Calm ,deep and steady whiff is a sign of vitality. A good physical strength ensures good health and earning power.

All of us are the best arbitrator of our lives. Are the intellects still doubt the correct course? I don’t think so, have a good day and best of vitality!

The paradoxical faiths of life

Hardships-the package of opportunities-pushed aside by all of us-so we push the opportunities. Hardship entails tackling the unknown-venturing the unknown territories. It is creator of fear so it is shunned. Every opportunity involves risks. Calculated risks (according to our strength) are necessary for progress.

Calmness or equanimity- mistaken as vegetative stage of being or renouncing the life and world-it is the state of complete alertness with total relaxation. A state of total awareness in witness mode gives clarity of the circumstances. To achieve the state- a regular practice is needed.

Peace-the thing of ascetic or can be striven at old age. Is the present age or time is entitled to slave in negative thoughts and misery or to waste in agitated state and tension? Or is a time to harbor the unpleasant thoughts – a product of unaware mind? Or allowing all those negative thoughts to root inside for long so ruining the mind and body it can create ailment in long run. EVERY AILMENT HAS CAUSE IN MIND.

Anger- view as a tool of strength- in fact it a sign of weakness- a weak person gets threatened easily and shows anger unable to cope up with situation. To beat the blue and anger- an exercise of compiling the self must be taken by us so we should not waste energy. Anger dissipates energy- it is like poison.

Perception of world -Usually by many of us the world and people are viewed as competitor. I have seen many people in life they are always at competition - at home, at work place and everywhere. They generate competitor at first step and starts competing losing the bliss of the moment and work in hand.

We are not here to impress anyone and the world outside. We are here with our own special talent to display with complete fullness according to our potential. We are here to enjoy the bliss of life giving complete awareness to the work in hand and to enjoy the moment. Success and failure are all relative in the world. No success is ever final so any failure cannot be allowed to be fetal.

The hurdles of success reside inside us-as inertia, procrastination and compliance-which restrict the growth and best of ours. The world for us must exist inward to outward. First we organize our inner world, instinctively it will handle the outside world in best way.

Spirituality- a refuge of non action or like renouncing the world. It is actually art and science of life- a sure shot technique of empowered life- yoga, japa (the vibrations have the power to tune the mind and body),Hindu figurines (energy patterns like Yantra-has certain pattern, color and symbols to understand- empowered tools to restore the lost mental and physical strength). To achieve these a regular practice and understanding require.

Bhagwat Gita –a book of elderly people meant for old age. It is the best book of human psychology-in the form of Krishna-the self- how to strength it (the self)? The mental frame and gain best of life is illustrated-a crying need of today’s world- for youths as well as for all of us.

In today’s life-where childhood ends at twelve and thirteen years- a teenager and twenty plus(and all of us) are seen coping with all insecurities or fighting the world-that range from fear, loneliness, peer pressure, careers, coping with failed affairs and sex/marital problems.

Under the friction of harsh world often the sustainability of life raises the skepticism -how long the throat cut life style allows one to breath in.? Sometimes life seem totally on the mercy of nature that raises question on their sustainability whether he/she will be able to push it for longer or peril in depression or in more unfortunate grave decision…

In this era of roving insecurities it time to precept right and wrong and choose the savior for protection.

Feeling low -just try it.

Are you feeling low? Isn’t catering the mood is a costly affair as it depletes energy and wastes time. In the fiscal language it is like squandering the money mindlessly at one hand and complaining about the perennial poverty at the other hand. Nobody likes misery but it shadows one uncalled.

What exactly is the extravagant mood?
It is a feel of defocused mental state. Usually strikes one in physically and mentally stressed state. It grips one intermittently as a habit and pattern. IF A HABIT CAN BE FORMED IT CAN BE BROKEN ALSO.

Then why not analyze it when it strikes us?
It will be amazing to find that actually we are willingly and willfully making ourselves miserable. It is our choice to make ourselves miserable. Not convinced just try it.

How to tackle the vicious cycle of low mood?
Simply be aware of the moment that you are in low mood or feeling low.
Just try to keep the feel of low being aware of its presence. When the low mood diverts at other point bring it back to its position. Try to devote full day on low mood consciously.
Amazingly you won’t be able to carry it for long.

Reason-the feel of low needs ground of passivity or unawareness, a kind of surrendering to it. It grips when one is physically or mentally stressed.
The moment one starts taking care of self by being aware of its presence, it is bound to leave him/her.

To utilize our full potential we must remove low moods from our mental mirror.
One should introspect each day in order to understand the nature of his mood, and how to correct it.

More often fighting with bad mood doesn’t help instead it leaves one more tired and frustrated. Sometimes whatever is suggested does not help as one is simply not interested and finds difficult to incorporate it practically.

To save time and energy we should not waste the day by surrendering ourselves to bad mood. Make up the mind that we are not going to be moody anymore; and if mood comes in spite of the resolve, it is better to analyze the cause that brought it on and do something constructive about it.

The Alliance of Souls

Our mutual glances, be they sweet
Our faces may they show our concord
Take me within thy heart and let
One spirit- dwells in both of us.
—Atharva Veda

Marriage is a duty performed in mutual cooperation for spiritual advancement.
—Srimad Bhagavatam

Marriage is  pivot of life.It ensures lifelong companionship to gregarious human beings as well as mental and emotional support in every phase of life.

The vows taken by the individuals during marriage are-
“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us apart.”
—Book of Common Prayer.

It is a reunion meant to support two individuals throughout of their lives. It is a wisdom oriented device of nature to sustain the species on the planet. For that it equipped the spouses with hormones induced attraction.

But more often the purpose of the institution seems to fail. What does the rising graph of matrimonial discord point? On the broad level the cited reason is incompatibility. Even in the cases where the vows were taken after the courtship of enough time. And it had cleared the all compatibility test of love and attunement earlier.

Still it fails to evolve with time and stagnancy crept inside the alliance.Eventually it chokes and lastly saps the vitality out of the relationship.

 In the universe everything first works on the mental and energy level then the gross form shapes.Every acclaimed action of the universe manifests first in thoughts then it breathes to life. MARRIEGE MUST BE ALLOWED TO GROW WITH TIME AS THE STAGNANCY SAPS VITALITY OUT OF IT.

When the person never gives a thought to grow beyond the triviality of lower level of energy and thoughts and they only hanker after gross things,a time comes when the full grown effect of uncontrolled desires engulf the life. 

How does it affect the couple on the physical level?
Let have a glance to Vedic wisdom or our ancient Aurveda healing system describes the body.

Root Chakra-the Mooladhar Chakra- the physical chakra which imparts strength and sustenance when healed. Situated at the base of the spine it is the seat of the desires. When unhealed it shows the unsatiating craving for worldly possessions and wealth.

The relationship of spouses who possess uncontrolled desires get stuck only in worldly possession and wealth. The means and happiness of relationship they draw satiating their worldly possessions by showcasing the clothes, jewels and stuffs. The desires are endless so they are bound to be unfulfilled after a point of time. And when the very purpose does not get fulfilled it questions the stability of relationship.

Hara Chakra-the Swadisthan Chakra –or the emotional chakra- when union of the two individual occurs at the level of this chakra empathy gets created between the two. It is often taken as bonding and love.

When the Hara Chakra of partners is not healed they show emotional insecurities in the relationships. Out of insecurities they try to control one another and eventually the relationship wilts.

Solar plexus- the chakra of power and wisdom- in healed condition the person exhibit strong will power.

The union between partners of strong will power shows a selfless attitude in relationships. And the marriage would be based on strong will of selfless love.

The heart chakra- also known as chakra of love- a chakra when healed it opens entrance of gratitude. The heart chakra gets healed only when both upper and lower chakra are balanced and healed.

Gratitude opens opulence in the life- when the individual leaves ‘ego’. The ego binds the person with false perception and it checks growth and love in life.

In marriage when the partners starts the life without any expectation. They respect and give space to each other and do not force another to conform. The union blossoms in selfless love. This kind of couple show undying love for one another. They turn into the picture of Ardhnareswer . The lives of such couples are so much tuned- thus in their life success, growth and prosperity make permanent realization.

Throat chakra- controls metabolism in body when the chakra is healed – it imparts truthfulness, strength and good values and better physical capacity which is counted as good working capability.

When the union between two individual exists at this level both of them give best to their lives. The relationship gets based on truthfulness. The strong mental and physical level imparts great character and strong personality to them. And strong mental and physical strength give the power to create health, wealth and long lasting bliss in life.

“You were born together, and together you shall be forever more.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
You shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”
—Khalil Gibran.

Do not look up above in the sky and ask persistently to God for the heaven- create it here on the earth. Life is the canvas of our lives provided by the almighty where we have to paint our hell or heaven.

Love and relationship

Osho says, “Love is not mere an emotion , love is an expression of your whole being.” So it cannot be an overwhelming fleeting and when it passes leaving behind you an empty, shattered in sadness and in sorrow.”

Isn’t love the most precious of all emotions? Love gives wholeness and liberation of whole being. In love the world seems beautiful. Still maintaining the precious feel (love) is like walking the tightrope. At the best display like trapeze artistes love too keeps everyone in the crowd spellbound with their mesmerizing charm like trapeze artistes who keep spectators spellbound with their death defying leaps and acrobatics. So often, gaping a well maintained relationship leaves one open mouth as if one is watching the gravity defying tricks.

In love the care should be taken and the grip shouldn’t be stifling one otherwise it will block the growth of another partner. At the same time tightness (bonding) should be enough to maintain the affinity. A tight grip becomes an exercise of control, stifling the growth in the relationship and a tool for emotional blackmail.

Love is not like owning someone; on the contrary it is the liberation. When someone loves, he or she allows the other to acquire more autonomy through this love.

Love is always mistaken by most of us as overwhelming emotions. Flowing in an emotion ,overwhelms one and blurs the vision .The person loses clarity. As a result whatever comes in the name of overwhelming love comes out as wrong. Losing in emotion is like walking in black cloud, in which one gets lost.

Love is a blissful emotion. Love flow through us in balanced state of our being. Therefore in love we gain tremendous insight, clarity, sensitivity, awareness. To acquire the power of love a patient investment of commitment is required to achieve it. Therefore very few people realizes this true realization of life, others simply chase the boundary instead of map.

To create true love in life it has to be taken out from the emotional grip, the false teaching we received since our birth, and we have to find a route of it, which fortunately passes through us. Unless the love becomes perennial part of our being, it is not much different from pain, suffering and sadness.

Often people claim being in love but reality show them otherwise. As they seem to perennially live in skeptics or insecurities about the relationship either begging or seeking.

Love is a confidence always stems out unconditionally.

There is not any gain and lose in love as it gives the moments to cherish.

Love also gives a means to create something permanent in our lives.

The antagonist ruler

The antagonism is here in the life, as the family members are not listening. The child is not complying. The neighbors and acquaintances are difficult people and weird in behaviors. Expectations are failing. On the whole the world and people seemed so odd to live and communicate.
And anger is cropping up in whatever we do, as it simply rules the day.
It happening with every one of us, on a small and big level, and now it becomes a reality of life.
What stage up this show of anger?
-Fatigue self.
-When any issue, circumstances disliked most by us.
-We lack the desired strength and vision to solve the situation calmly.
-When we surrender to reaction out of imposed threat.(TO REACT IS WEAKNESS, EASY TO DO WHERE AS AN ACTION NEEDED A CERTAIN WILLINGNESS,PERSISTENCY AND AWARENESS).
-Person is exhausting more energy on daily basis without any attention of working on the creation and sustenance of energy. The system needs a rejuvenation exercise to make up the lost energy (that should not be confused with exhausting further in the name of tagged way of merry making).
The key question of related to anger is whether it is a simple weakness or a disease.
Myth-most often anger is viewed as strength. It is actually an inability to find a calm solution of ongoing crisis.
-When a weak body or mental frames fail to act accordingly as a result it reacts in outburst, completely disrupting the wholeness of personality.
-Anger shows a shaken and frightened self.
- It is an indicator of weak physical and mental frame.
What does help?
Self help is the best help, to acknowledge the need to work on it is the first step.
-Acknowledge the need of some measures to help ourselves (meditation- during meditation working on the particular points or body organs where anger accumulates help).
- Every time get aware of the surge i.e. anger.
- Acknowledge that the poison is taking control of you (during anger certain fight and flight hormones are secreted that hamper the normal body functioning. Once secreted the hormones stays in blood stream for more than weeks thus hampering the normal body function on regular basis.).
-acknowledge the urgency to built up the lost energy (means are varied).learn not only way to create but sustain it positively.
- Self counseling does help, as calming anger is not about surrendering to situation. It is all about showing and acting on the disapproval to certain people, work and situation.
Here I would like to state one story taken out of Buddha life. When Buddha had been preaching about mind- management and virtues of simple living, there had a surge in his followers with every passing day. Some of the son’s of rich businessman had too joined him as his disciples and they started following the lives of simple means.
That angered the community of rich businessman and one of them came to him. He accused him of misleading the youths with non actions, like he had been leading his own life.
Buddha had listened all his accusation calmly and asked one question-“Parth suppose you had brought a gift for someone, but the person refused to receive the gift, so where the gift would stay now”.
The infuriated rich man replied –“ an inert mind like yours only couldn't comprehend the simple fact like this. When the person refused the gift then it would remain with the person who had brought it.”
Buddha replied the gift of anger you had brought for me but it had been refused by me. You came from such a far of place and tired yourself with that extent I was really sorry for that. The man became charmed with magical serenity of Buddha.
Buddha did not react. So he did not lose calmness. But he acted rightly.
He had the power to deny the gift. A power to chose, what was to be accepted or what was to be left untouched.
He had the power to create immunity to bad words (IMMUNITY TO BAD WORDS ONE OF THE BIGGEST STRENGTH OF THE SELF).
He did not chose to pick up the fallen arrows of bad words which were strewn all around him, and pricking himself to feel the pain, sustain it in memory for long and dwell in it on permanent basis. An exercise more often we chose to do.( WE DON'T ONLY REGISTER BAD MEMORIES ATTENTIVELY, BUT CHOSE TO DWELL IN IT ON PERMANENT BASIS).
- Dwelling in bad memories create enough bad hormones in body that hampers normal functioning of body system.(DON’T FORGET THE CHOICE TO FEEL THE PAIN IS MADE BY US THAT IS WHY WE ARE FEELING IT .INSTEAD OF THAT OUR CHOICE COULD HAVE BEEN TO CHANGE THE SITUATION AND WE WOULD HAVE WORKED ON THE TECHNIQUE).
Still acknowledging all these facts it is difficult to get rid of anger. It takes years of willingness, persistency and workout to acquire a wholesome personality.
Measures to control anger-
Meditation is a powerful means to calm the mind and refill the lost energy.
-Reiki too comes as powerful aid, as it is equip us with potent symbols which give beneficial results. Working on particular chakras which are related to emotional issues and different points of brains offers good result but persistency is required.
-According to Buddhist philosophy one has to incorporate calmness first in thought then only in action it will be reflected.
-Some japa of mantras also help.
Most importantly being a believer in wholeness of life, relationship and action works wonder. The bliss which comes out of wholeness of relationships, job done and life is unparalleled to anything else in this world. And we deserve the best, as we are ready to work for the best.

Judiciously finance your energy budget-1

How many of us really belong to that rare tribe who do not get in awe after encountering glowing skin, shiny hairs and eyes of a beautiful diva. Most of us naturally tuned to get mesmerized by the generous exposure of the intelligence displayed by dynamic professional or by the learning power of a child prodigy. Most of us aspire to be like them. After all what keep them so elevated where as so many of us struggle through out the day to hide our chronic fatigue syndrome. Yes, they either are gifted with enough life force energy or they exactly know how to sustain it.

As body constitution of one person differs with another so does the vitality. Even the level of dissipation of energy while dealing with different circumstances varies from person to person. The emotions which root out as a response to life experiences too vary from one individual to another.Thus the emotions displayed by the individual is proportional to vitality held by him. A person of particular constitution holds different level of life force energy. It means that the amount of this vital life force energy one beholds that acts as determiner for our behavior and success. It has direct bearing on the behavior and success parameter of one’s life.

As the life force energy determines our behavior and success in life, therefore behavior can be molded or groomed consciously directing our thought patterns. If it is so than an investment of effort for desired result seems a right preposition to deal with the ruling crisis i.e. low performance and fatigue. Therefore an investment in our effort to control behavior pattern ensures enhancement in ones life force energy.
Eventually the need for investment in energy arises?
It is futile to run low at the expense of precious life force energy. Every thought of low energy or negative energy expenses further energy. It is like complaining persistently about poverty at the same time wasting money on transient trivial. The wisdom lies in the fact to prevent squandering of too much of it by conscious efforts.
How to check wastage of life force energy?
To begin with it is better to first acknowledge the culprits who consciously plunder our life force energy. They are anxiety, anger, frustration, long term stress, excessive indulgence, smoking, recreational drugs, promiscuous relationship and lack of sleep and rest.
To nourish the vitality of life there is need to acknowledge the life supporting factors that include air, water, food, and most important a calm disposition. The kind of food, water and air we take hold the promise to nourish and drain this vital energy.
Very often the people around us affect our state of calmness by either gravitating or toxicating us. So we must beware of that energy drainer around us.
To impart more glow to life a peaceful meditation, yoga, and pranayama which are designed to calm the mind and revitalize nervous system should be included in routine.
Food also play key role in managing our moods and emotions. Special preference should be given to fibrous fruits and vegetables and grains. Anything fresh and colorful is good for building energy. Similarly, anything stale, old, and preserved depletes energy leaving us sluggish and sleepy most of the time. They simply act as filler which can only satiate our palate for the while and add low quality bulk sapping our precious energy. These food do not promise any strength and even hard to digest.
So it is save to go ahead with little tact while we dispense our precious life force energy. Are few of us still skeptical about the discretionary handling of this precious life force energy? Naturally it is the choices of ours that shape the lives.

A macabre solution...?

The memories of the recent spate of honor killings in north India seems to die hard. The sequels of these incidents are showing themselves as an epidemic. For intellectuals, as well as reformers or the proprietors of Indian tradition, this macabre killing cannot be taken as an expression of respect to our five thousand year-old history and culture. In every civilization and religion, some beneficial rules are made for the masses that don’t have the time or expertise to seek the truth and reason behind every action taken. This wisdom is used collectively to benefit the community.

Let us have a sensible look behind this forbidden custom. Why does our society abhor such an alliance? People of the same gotra or sub-caste individuals are those who belong to same family tree. Sexual relationships between the same gotra are considered as incest by the society. The scientific reason behind forbidding this custom is that the offspring of genetically related parents have increased chances of being affected by recessive or deleterious traits. This generally leads to decreased fitness of the population.

On the second level, natural selection too does not support the survival of the offspring having alleles of same type, as a result of which, any natural environmental stresses like unfavorable climatic conditions or epidemics can wipe out the species. This was a sensible decision taken by our sages to protect and create a strong and adaptable community supported by nature.

Now the question is, can the taboo of incest be so harsh that it can be justified by killing? How can any decision which harms its own people be justified? On the other hand, whatever is happening is the outcome of the transformation of society. Urbanization, migrations for jobs, women emancipation are the fast growing transformations which are blurring the lines of caste and gotra.

So is it not the society which in real encouraged all these changes for the fulfillment of their needs, which resulted in same gotra marriage? Then why blame or punish the young generation, if while fulfilling their way of living, they have gone too far and defied old age beneficial norms? The society can show its disapproval in better ways. And to check it further, it can educate the populace about the deleterious effect of same-gotra marriage on its offspring. But the deplorable act of premeditated homicide must be checked instantly, for it is giving birth to a criminal, inhuman society. Should a diabetic be killed if he eats sugar that is harmful for him?

 Therefore despite of the scientific relevance of the negative effects on offspring, some patience and reason should be shown to the couples who defy it. We can help them to rule out any possibility of harmful effect instead.

In the name of saving customs, traditions and some possible genetic aberrations, we simply cannot afford to create a society of threatening criminals. We have taken pride in several acts of the vibrant youth; their rising intellect graph, their marks on several fronts of science and technology. If this intelligent generation can make their life and career, violence and harm to them in any way is one of the most barbaric, macabre and inexcusably inhuman acts.

The blunder of the act does not lie in those who go ahead with the decision to marry within the same gotra, which possibly could produce some less fit offspring. It lies instead, in the creation of criminal or self-patrolling custodians without the spirit of humanity.

It’s time to contemplate and decide which is more threatening to our society and which one should be eradicated first.

A Call for a rage buster gadget

News that is the outcome of rage flashes in the national dailies with intermittent frequency. The intensity of gruesome acts that describe the incidents stirs the souls of many. The news haunts for days, seeking its remedy. Contemplation by experts and common people unanimously suggests a better, careful insight to handle the crisis. All these could have been evaded with a little aptly shown care while going through it. Timely concern and wise energy investment could have transformed the horrid and inhumane acts into something sensible and humane.

A young girl with her paramour, a karate teacher strangulated her aunt, as the latter objected to her intimacy with her karate teacher after sighting them in a compromising position. Little did the poor aunt know about the consequence.

The mess of suicidal acts by students or denizens stirs the conscious so often. Honor killing, another menace of rage is in addition of the list. Don’t these revolting news screams for remedy? Isn’t it sheer ignorance of the inner state?

Rage is an act of scared soul who lacks enough strength and a vision to deal with crises. Doesn’t the upsurge of rage-driven ghastly incidents in the society, call for immediate action on our side before being too late?

The act of improving is the norms of society which we all need at every stage of our lives. It helps us to grow and mend our ways for the better. But whenever the involved parties, either at the giver’s or receiver’s end do not perform it aptly, the system goes haywire. The strength here is the willingness on a mental level to acknowledge the mistakes, to work upon it and correct it.

What is rage?

“Rage is a mental state of extreme anger where one chose consciously to take action to immediately stop, the threatening behavior of another outside force”.

Simply an action taken in devilish urgency without afterthought of consequence, rage is always a complete recipe of disaster.

Rage is an accumulated emotion, which make its way in a weak mental and physical frame. To deal with any crisis, desired physical as well as at mental strength is always needed.

In our daily lives we do myriad things to promote our live styles. We do take enough care in enhancing our skills and our personalities for better earning and career, we do take care of our food and hygiene for health. We don’t mind investing a little extra on the stuff which guaranty us more security. Everything which exists outside, we are aware of and enough care is taken.

In the name of entertainment we exhaust our selves more than before. Youngsters in the name of entertainment, use ear-phones for threateningly long hours and risking their hearing abilities. Adults on the tag of partying, simply float in booze, putting extra pressure on their systems.

But the most powerful creator of action, the brain is left untamed and mismanaged customarily. As it is not prevalent in society no one has believe in managing it nor has fancy for it. Thus, horrid rage-driven acts so often raise their ugly heads in the society.

“Yet don’t we need a routine to strengthen the mind?” we must ask this pertinent question of ourselves.

Rage is an outcome of a fatigued self. The overwhelming fatigue of the mental state actually screams for help. Annoyance, irritation, anger, loss of temper on slightest provocations are the different faces of suppressed rage that are usually left untended by people.

Therefore the epicenter of every action, the brain, must be provided with its basic need of revitalization. The method and techniques are varied in our diverse country, only a little will is needed to put it in action.

Find your rage buster gadget with care; otherwise it could deplete you further.

Empty Nest or Distance Parenting

It is usually referred to by people as the empty nest syndrome when a child leaves home for higher education at a much happening place. And then the parents are viewed with sympathetic glances, deserving to be labeled as forlorn souls and with nothing to do at all. On the contrary when I entered into that phase of life, I found the entire scenario very challenging as it entailed a mature as well as precise participation of mine in my child’s life, really a calculated effort by which I had to guide as well monitor my child’s actions through motivation. For the first time in my life I realized that the presence of those values which I had imparted to her years ago were showing their results. It filled me with mixed reactions of awe and sometimes with indecisiveness. Though through the distance I monitored her sailing through the insecurities of daily affairs, taking care of her health, scheduling time for studies and committing to it, prioritizing the things and necessities of life.

After a certain stage exposure to real world and company to peers is most desirable thing in every child’s life. That makes our role as parents more crucial than ever, where we had to guide our child with few spoken words which we conveyed to her in a day. Therefore the conveyed words must match with actions of our life and worthy enough to be cherished. Instantaneously it shifts our position as a parent to a counsellor in the child’s life. Fortunately in this highly networked era of telecommunication, I often felt the heat of proving myself to be the best of the counsellor who aptly tele- counseled and unburden her off to accumulated strains of the day. It does really take great deal of mental strength to show your virtual presence in child’s life through your teaching, a real litmus test of parenting skills, is not it?

Now I feel that my task became more daunting with constant shift in my portfolios, from a mother to counsellor and then to best friend. Of course in today’s hi-tech world to handle a vibrant friend, that too of less than half of my age requires enough energy to carry on. Honestly I won’t hesitate to admit that this prettiest, bubbly thing occupies a large chunk of memory space in hard disk leaving no time to sulk and fret.